For many Christians, the goal of the transformative work they understand God wants to do in their lives is to be increasingly like Jesus. This worthy ambition is not, however, without its challenges. In particular, it requires us to apply ‘hermeneutics’ (the principles and practice of interpretation) to the biblical materials, for we have a chasm to cross in how to apply what we learn (or think we learn) about Jesus from the biblical text to our present day situation. For one thing, Jesus was God,[1] and we are not – how does this affect our reading, and our aspiration? For another, we in our modern world and culture are separated from the ancient world and its culture by some 2,000 years of human history. The world we inhabit is not that of the biblical writers. How they saw “the way things are and are meant to be” is not necessarily how we would see them today.[2] So, statements, ideas and perspectives on life that they would take as ‘obvious’, and would be shared without question by their community, may be far from obvious to us and our community. And vice versa. So, in reading the Bible we must be careful that we are not reading into it meanings that would not have been considered by the original authors. No writing can be timeless, either in terms of the words used to express ideas (for the meaning of words changes) or in terms of the ideas themselves. What a certain concept, or phrase, or story, meant to the writer – or the way it would have been heard and understood by its original audience – may well not be what we would think, reading it today through the lenses of the 21st century Western world and in light of our own experiences.
This is not to suggest that the Bible is inaccessible, or that only theologians can read it and tell us ‘what it means.’ But it should caution us to hold lightly ‘what we think it means’ and to try to be conscious of the influences on how we read something. In particular, to beware developing grand interpretive schemes on isolated individual texts or collections of texts that appear at face value to support a theme; our goal is exegesis (reading what’s in the Bible out of it) not eisegesis (reading what’s in our thinking into it). Preachers, of course, are especially prone to this danger.
Getting this right is not altogether easy,[3] but one rule of thumb is that, to the extent we are reading the Bible devotionally, to inspire ourselves, we are more likely to be on safe ground. Where, though, we are reading the Bible directively, to teach or instruct others, we need to be more cautious. In other words, I am distinguishing between what I find meaningful in this passage for me and what this passage means, for others. In both cases, the bigger or grander the theological schema we are seeking to build from the materials, the more cautious we should be that we are interpreting it rightly, and the more lightly and provisionally we should hold what we think we are finding.
Anyway, back to the base question: what it means for us today to ‘be like Jesus’, in ways that reflect the biblical portrait. I want to focus on just two aspects, which seem to me to be timeless, and transferrable across the cultural and temporal divide. One is the way Jesus related to those who were inside the church and the other how he related to those outside the church.[4]
Firstly, in contrast to the approach sometimes adopted by Christian Ministers today, Jesus did not shy away from friendship. He thought of those in his church as friends and treated them as friends, not just as ‘flock’. He was willing to take the risk of being close. He was vulnerable with them, and ‘was himself’, rather than keeping his distance as part of his ‘office.’ Although he ‘set an example’ (indeed, our supreme example) this was not through artificial patterns of behaviour, it was in and through ‘being himself.’
He did not think of those in his church as simply co-workers, having individual personal relationships with God, yet solely functional working arrangements with him and with one other.[5] There is no evidence that he felt he needed to treat everyone the same, or to shy away from being real friends with people in the church.[6] We read, for example, of the disciple whom Jesus loved (the ‘one’), the inner circle of Peter, James and John (the ‘three’) and of course, the Apostles (the ‘twelve’). Furthermore, there were close personal relationships with the many women who were part of his immediate friendship group, as well as a wider group who knew him well (e.g. the ‘72’, the ‘120’, and so on).
If we are seeking to model God and his ways, as revealed to us in Jesus how can we – whether ordinary church members or Christian Ministers – shy away from engaging whole-heartedly in real, enjoyable, genuine, life-sharing, mutually-vulnerable friendship? Should Ministers not relate to people in their church as an everyday, just-like-you, person, rather than as a ministry? Or do we want our ‘priests’ to keep a healthy distance away from (one might say, above) the ordinary world that ordinary people inhabit?
Secondly, Jesus had active involvement – which he seemed genuinely to relish – with those who were outside the church. What was the nature of that involvement? We find two things, in particular, said about him in the Gospels. One, that he was a friend of sinners. Two, that he was a drunkard and a glutton. Neither was intended as a compliment! Where did these criticisms come from? Not from thin air. The evidence of what he did could certainly lead to that conclusion, if that was the way you looked at it. Avoiding both those criticisms is a major preoccupation with many Christians today, and, particularly, with Ministers. But, might it be that ‘risking’ such criticism is a necessary part of ‘being like Jesus’? Jesus encouraged us to be ‘in’ the world, at the same time as not being ‘of’ it, but does fear of the latter sometimes overwhelm achieving the former? Should we perhaps ‘lighten up’ and realise that just as the Gospel’s good news is all about relationship, so too is the route to people receiving that good news? Or has ‘working on my Sunday morning message’ taken priority over ‘having dinner with un-churched people’ in the priorities of Christian ministry? Has ‘come to my church and listen to my wonderful preaching’ – which of course it might be – replaced Jesus’ way of ‘let’s chat over dinner and a few glasses of wine’, in bringing people closer to the kingdom? How is it that we have allowed the presentational to take over from the relational in our so-called evangelism? NB – it seems unlikely that Jesus would have been widely criticised for being a ‘drunkard’ (widely enough for the story to be passed down and recorded in the written Gospels) if he had abstained from wine in the company of the un-churched. Clearly, being seen to be ‘setting an example’ in front of the un-churched – i.e. a ginger beer publicly, but a bottle of wine privately – was not part of his strategy.[7] Nor do we get the impression that he treated such meals as another ‘meeting’ (the Wednesday night Bible Study, the Thursday night Meal for the Unsaved). No … it was natural, not stilted, it was organic, not institutionalised, and he thoroughly enjoyed it – it wasn’t part of the job.
Some Christians worry that if they engage too closely with the un-churched, their ‘sinfulness’ will rub off on them, or their own distinctiveness as Christians will be compromised.[8] Jesus might well have responded to this worry by pointing out that such things come from the inside of a person, not from the outside. Jesus seemed to think that who he was would rub off on them, rather than the other way around. There are, of course, ways in which Christians should be distinct, and ways in which we should not. What falls within each category should be the subject of reflection and conversation amongst us. Genuine enjoyment of the company of ‘sinners’, building real and genuine relationships (and not solely with the short-term goal – dare we call this a hidden agenda? – of converting them, within a timescale of our choosing) and listening as well as telling, all seem to have been integral to Jesus’ praxis.
How often have we reflected on the significance of Jesus’ habitual table fellowship with the un-churched? Do we read Jesus’ sayings as if they were always delivered as monologue sermons, in meetings, or read out from a heavenly auto-cue? Might some of them have been shared over the meal table in the homes of those outside the church? Maybe some of it came out of conversations. Perhaps Jesus shared similarly, on some of his favourite themes, quite often, and shaped and sharpened his thoughts through dialogue and questioning from his hosts and fellow guests.
Where do we get the idea that the principal and best means of reaching people who are ‘outside’ the faith with the truth is by getting them to come and listen to our Sunday sermons? I am tempted to wonder if it is only preachers who think that - bless! - but their congregations are too polite to tell them so! How much do we allow what Jesus did to influence our church plans and priorities?
Being like Jesus may not be quite what we have thought it is. If we look more closely at how he lived, how he related to people and how he went about introducing people to God the Father, we may find that ‘being like Jesus’ amounts to something more than privately modelling our inner character on his and drawing lessons from his sayings to inform our personal ethics.
And certainly amounts to more than organising church services – on our terms – and expecting people to show up to them and make life-changing decisions through listening to a didactic, one-way lecture. However much the Minister enjoys it!
[1] Even what we mean by this phrase requires some interpretation, for Jesus was both God and man. Christians often struggle to balance these aspects of the biblical portrait. This in turn is complicated by the Bible being both the ‘word of God’ and the work of the human writers. In both cases, humanity was not bypassed or marginalised by divinity, but seamlessly integrated – “fully God, and fully man”, indivisibly. How we understand this subject is a very significant feature of how we approach the Bible ‘hermeneutically’ and what we find in it about Jesus.
[2] This is not a case of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’, biblical view versus secular view, but simply how people see “the way things are”, their reference points in the understanding of life and society that they inhabit.
[3] The sheer volume of biblical materials makes it easy to find in it virtually whatever we want to (and many do exactly that).
[4] Clearly, use of the term ‘church’ in this context is somewhat anachronistic. By it, I mean the contemporary community of believers. Starkly put, those who were ‘in’, contrasted with those who were ‘out’, although the edges of these categories are always far fuzzier than we tend to suppose (and hence the reason I much prefer a centred-set approach to a bounded-set approach). An open question for another time is whether there was really that much difference in the way Jesus treated those in each category, with the sole exception of when he encountered – in those who claimed to represent God – rank hypocrisy, oppression of the poor, or distortion of the nature and character of the Father. The reason for choosing to use the word ‘church’ of Jesus’ situation is to assist us in seeing the applicability of what he did to what we do.
[5] The church is not just a factory for producing individual Christians, where the pastor operates the machine.
[6] It appears both these ideas originate in pastoral-training seminaries, but they simply add to the impression that – however much they may protest that it’s a ‘calling’, not a ‘job’ – pastoral ministers are performing a role, adopting a professional posture, rather than just living life alongside fellow believers. In contrast, the biblical picture suggests that Jesus’ strategy deliberately included developing closer personal relationships with a limited number and, through what he taught and ‘modelled’ to them, through relationships and friendship rather than just meetings, reaching the wider community.
[7] I am not suggesting the accusation was correct as such, nor that it should be true of us! Rather, that his enthusiastic participation in table fellowship with the un-churched, engaging them in their homes over meals and conversation he thoroughly enjoyed, meant there was some underlying ‘grain of truth’ in it, for critics who sought to (mis)characterise it that way. It was a risk he was entirely happy to run.
[8] We should reflect, with some concern, that this was precisely the understanding of the Pharisees.