So why do I care about this stuff in the first place? Mostly it’s because so many of us have friends whose example of a loving, committed homosexual partnership is a huge challenge (and sometimes, quite frankly, an embarrassing wakeup call) to people who hold negative views about their living and loving arrangements. For me, that evidence has demanded a verdict. We need to know where we stand with them.
Before we finish, here are some questions and final thoughts which I didn’t manage to shoehorn into the rest of this series.
William J. Webb says that although we don’t punish homosexuals with death today, we should still see homosexuality as a grave sin because it was one of only two sins which were punishable by death (the other is bestiality). But this seems like a huge irony to me. Surely a righteous punishment then should be a righteous punishment now? Uganda is currently trying to push an antigay bill which, if enforced, will mean that offenders receive the death penalty (for ‘aggravated homosexuality’) or life imprisonment (for ‘the offense of homosexuality’). Of course, Jesus transformed our view of punishment (‘turn the other cheek’ instead of ‘an eye for an eye’), and our culture wouldn’t dream of killing homosexuals. But if Leviticus’ ancient world punishment seems abhorrent to us – culture-bound – might the crime also be culture-bound? Of course, the Israelites believed that God had ordained both crime and punishment. If they were wrong about the punishment, might we be wrong about the ‘crime’?
2. Some Christians (like Webb) hold the view that sexual acts are separate from orientation. But Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:28 (that lust equals adultery) suggest that when we lust after someone, we’ve already acted. Homosexuals are often encouraged to be celibate to guard against homosexual sin. But do Jesus’ words make celibacy pointless for homosexuals? Are they ‘being gay’ just by thinking? If we all fall short of the glory of God in our thinking, what does that say about choice and orientation?
3. Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 6 about not being ‘one flesh’ with prostitutes suggest that ‘marriage’ is more about sexual union than wedding ceremony. Some Christians are (tentatively) for gay marriage on the basis that it’s better for homosexuals to get married than to burn with lust. Being a Christian, I’m all for the marriage ceremony, but why don’t we insist that all heterosexual couples get married? Are we applying a double standard?
Final thoughts:
In my experience, whenever the conversation ‘Is gay OK?’ comes up, the first issue people have in their minds is infidelity. For a long time, self-confessed anti-gay preachers have been all over the news for ‘shameful’ homosexual acts. They get demonised by Christians, treated with a mixture of sympathy and disdain by every one else. I don’t for once approve of those who have left their families for same-sex relationships, but let’s not forget that leaders also leave families to pursue opposite-sex affairs. It’s just that those stories don’t make the news. For me, their discovery of homosexual feelings is not the issue; after all, bisexual men and women live faithful, monogamous, ‘heterosexual’ married lives all the time. My impression is that these leaders are ‘coming out’ (albeit in spectacularly sinful style, if they were married): expressing sexualities which their theology has forced them to repress. The real shame is that families are broken over this issue. In my opinion, the issue is the repressive message these ministers work so hard to preach – a message which becomes increasingly impossible to live by. They’re taught to read the Bible a certain way – to accept condemnation as Biblical truth – and are led by that interpretation to deceive others. So they deceive themselves, their families, and their churches. Ultimately, I think we have to accept some responsibility for dictating who they should have married.
We need to talk about Westboro. For those who haven’t had the dubious pleasure of witnessing their anti-homosexual, anti-liberal, anti-everything-else antics, here is a link to their church homepage: http://www.godhatesfags.com.
Now, you could say that Westboro Baptist Church preaches an evil, fundamentalist brand of Christianity. If you’ve made it this far through this series, you’re nothing like them. But my view is that regardless of all their other messages of hate, their position on homosexuality is the logical conclusion of ours. They’re applying a legalistic Christianity which rejects the full redemptive spirit of the Bible. Their religion is lifted straight from Leviticus, and my view is that even a moderate version of that religion is not enough. A slightly more moderate version is the ‘ex-gay movement’, but the lack of ‘success’ there is well documented. Evidence suggests that people who emerge ‘cured’ are either repressed homosexuals, or bisexuals who consequently married a woman so that they could claim ‘cure’ and get Christians off their backs. Similarly, lots of cripples are ‘cured’ by the Church, only to find out later that they’ve been carried part of the way by wishful thinking. A lot of us have rejected the faith-result equation: the more faith I have, the more results I can expect.
It’s my view that LGBT people are being persecuted on a level that the early Church simply didn’t see; otherwise the issue might have appeared among the divisions at Corinth, initiating further redemptive movement. I hear about rejection from family, bullying at school and in the workplace, violent homophobic attacks, and more, all the time – by both Christians and non-Christians (contrary to popular opinion, secular culture is very far from fully accepting). It’s extremely difficult to ‘come out’; people have done themselves damage doing so and trying not to. It doesn’t sound to me like anyone’s choosing a way of life. Who would go through this much suffering if they could avoid it? Constant arguing about nature / nurture is beside the point if we engage in it simply to get a pat on the back for our own biblical views. I want the persecution to end. Many Christians have imagined that homosexuals have an anti-Jesus agenda, and they simply don’t. LGBT people want access to the same faith, the same marriage, as us. They often feel rejected by the Church for obvious reasons, and (again for obvious reasons) that can look like hostility – they may reject churches, and Christians. But they never chose their rejection from us.
Webb writes about the obvious dangers of allowing contemporary culture, ‘the spirit of the age’, to govern one’s theology. I hope that I’ve guarded myself against that during this series, by being faithful to scripture, first and foremost, and by allowing it – along with my culture – to govern my convictions. In any case, I don’t see LGBT issues as ‘the spirit of the age’; alternative sexualities have been around forever. If there has been a ‘spirit of the age’ since, perhaps, the civil rights movements of the 60s, it’s one of realisation: the LGBT person is my neighbour, and we cannot allow prejudice to continue in any way, shape or form. I also see the danger of conflating God’s will with our own culture-bound ‘rights’. But I don’t see equality with LGBT Christians as a newly-invented ‘right’ either. I see it as a fundamental responsibility if we’re going to realise the full reality of Jesus’ command to love our neighbour and embrace the disenfranchised, whether under our Church roof or outside it. You might want to question the phrase ‘equal rights’, but equality is both subtly and massively different: it’s a Godly value, and (for me) the “ultimate ethic”.